Sunday, January 6, 2013

To date or not to date?

Being single again is difficult. It is hard to know how to handle certain situations. One big question that has been on my mind is the dating question. I keep telling myself that it is okay to wait, it is okay to be single and work on me, just concentrate on my boys. I know that is the sensible thing to do. But.....then I think, what can going on a date hurt? After all, I am 36 years old, and not getting younger. 

So, I'll admit it, I joined a dating website. It is hard to meet people when you are a single mom, the only places that usually allow you to meet single people are bars, and I don't see that there are a lot of good prospects there. 

So, I made me a profile on a popular dating site. Then the messages started coming, and I realized that online dating can be really time consuming. People want to chat, and they want to chat right now. Not only do they want to chat, they want to text, they want to call, they actually want to go out! Imagine that! Not that I mind any of that, but it is really hard to weed through the frogs and find any possible "princes".  Men who I actually want to move on to the next step with, a phone call. 

I am not totally new to this online dating thing. I tried it several years back. I did go on a few dates, mostly frogs! I did meet a couple of really nice guys, one who I even liked a lot. Sadly he was not prince material. 

 So, what did I do? I got tired of the online thing, had a girls night with a couple of friends, and met the prince frog that I eventually married. Yes, we had two beautiful children, and I am thankful for that, but the less said about "him" the better! 

It would be so nice to just go to the grocery store and pick up the man of your dreams in aisle number 6.  That isn't likely, so we must trudge along, kissing frogs, and praying that they turn into princes! 

So who is the man of my dreams? Well it is really pretty simple. I want a man who actually acts like a man. A man who is strong (but doesn't mind showing his emotions), and  who is witty. Who doesn't mind laughing and being silly, but who knows when to be serious. A man who opens doors, and pulls out chairs. A man who makes me feel safe, a man who likes to kiss and cuddle. That shouldn't be to hard to find...yeah right! 


  1. I hope you do meet prince charming on aisle 6! That would be awesome. I have some friends who are trying the online dating thing, and I just don't know how they do it. It would scary. But, like you said, the options of going to a bar or place you don't want to meet people isn't an option either. I guess online has it's possibilities. One friend of mine married her prince that she met through an online service.

  2. Thanks for visiting my blog! I love that Marilyn Monroe quote!

  3. I can only imagine how scary it must be having to date again....but I do know of people who have met their "princes" online, so it could happen for you too! Otherwise, I guess you could just keep hanging out in aisle 6 until he comes along - you just never know.

  4. Lol, I read a book that said to hang out in Lowes or Home Depot!!